Ok, we will start off with some pictures because I know that's what you want! :-). 
Kids and boxes, is there a better toy? Emily is never thrilled when I get out the camera. She can be laughing and such one minute then I pull out the camera and she goes silent and blank. Lol. What can you do.
I put up a Christmas tree in the girls room, they LOVE it. They both stand in front of it and look and smile and point all the time. I can't wait to see their reactions to all the other decorations. After this week I can get it done!
This is heaven! All of my fur babies sleeping with my sweet little girls. Some day they'll all be cuddling each other. Not there yet!
We got pictures made with Santa. This is a pretty good picture of how it went. Lol
So... That brings me to this coming week.
Let me back up so that you have the rest of the story first.
When we decided to adopt from China, we had a couple options. We could go with the traditional program and wait for a healthy child or we could go the path of the "waiting " child. The waiting child program encompasses a lot. Basically, if you choose the traditional program, you're in for the long haul. The wait, as of recently, for a healthy child is approx. 8-10 YEARS....YEARS! As you know we are old and don't have that kind of time. It really wasn't so much time as us wanting to step out of our comfort zone and let God lead us to our girls. In the very beginning of the process each adoptive family fills out a medical conditions checklist (mcc). On this list are a jillion medical conditions that you can "accept" or not. The whole spectrum pf special needs exists. We meticulously went through the checklist, studying each condition and deciding if we had the means to take care of it.
We selected many different special needs on our mcc. We believed this was the path we were to take. Even after we submitted the mcc, I must've edited it a hundred times. I'd learn more about this condition or that condition. I'd meet an adoptive family that adopted a child with a this or that condition and then we would revisit. It was overwhelming as well as mentally exhausting. I didn't want to not select a need we could handle and I surely didn't want to select a need that would be beyond our ability to care for. Not out of selfish reasons but in the interests of the child as well. Our list constantly changed because we were constanly having people put in our path that would nudge us in a direction. Many moms I talked to suggested we be open to a wide range of needs and let God speak to us. That was scary, but it's what we did. I'm sooo glad we took that advice.
So, how it works...when you get a referral, you're given a few days to speak with doctors, share the child's medical information, and then try your best to make a decision that's right for the child and right for you. Keep in mind, the information may or may not be accurate.
Fast forward to December 2013. We went through Emily's file with a fine tooth comb. We sent her file to several specialists, Pediatricians, a neurologist, and a local physician. We gave them her info and waited. All the while we were falling in love. Pressure was on to decide. We still hadn't heard from most of the doctors. On a Sunday morning before Christmas we sat together and talked. Rob shared his heart...he said "babydoll, when she is 20 years old and asks what made us decide to adopt her, I don't want to say "when we had all the information and knew you'd be ok, I want to say yes now, before we hear from the doctors because we know she's ours!" Well.., after some tears and praying, Monday morning I submitted our letter of intent. The following days we had some good conversations with several doctors and they gave us hope that indeed she would be ok. Similar situation happened with Olivia.. We said yes first. L
Emily was born with a cleft palate and a hole in her heart. Olivia was born with a cleft lip and palate. Her lip was repaired in China. There were also some other concerns but they're big words that I can't spell and they don't matter. Either way they are both perfect. They're smart, funny, energetic, and of course beautiful. Sometimes children are labeled with scary diagnoses and they're just not accurate. It's a leap of faith for sure. That's why researching your mcc is so important.
Now begins our journey to take care of some of the medical needs.
Both girls will need to soon undergo surgery to repair their palates. We are in the process of deciding who will do it. So much is involved that I surely don't want us to make a bad decision. Our first consultation is with the university of Texas medical center team. We are traveling to Houston to meet with them on Monday. We would surely appreciate your prayers in making this decision.
So... Today we traveled to College Station to stay with some lifelong friends (mom is traveling with me as Rob needs to save his days off for surgeries)
The girls screamed the entire 6 hour trip until we crossed the city limits sign...,
This happened. Ha. Go figure.
Emily wants to help with the driving.
We have one more stop before our appointment on Monday and if you could pray for the girls as they learn to ride in a car seat for long periods of time. My nerves are shot. :-) tomorrow I get to meet a fellow adoptive mom that I've gotten to know along the journey. She happens to live here in College Station too.
It's an awesome journey folks. If you've met our daughters you wouldn't know a thing was wrong. We are so glad we chose the path of a waiting child. There are so many precious kiddos out there that just need a mommy and daddy!
If you have any questions about adoption, china adoption, waiting child adoption, our girls, filling out an mcc, I'd be thrilled to share more. The majority of adoptions coming out of China now are waiting child adoptions. It's an Awesome awesome thing!
Goodnight all I must sleep before they wake!
Enjoying a little silence
Jenn
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